Are You Feeling Lost?

Life is like a long voyage at sea, and sometimes even the most experienced sailors get lost.

Perhaps you reflect on your life and you don't know how you got here. You feel like you fell into a life that was decided for you, one that you felt obliged to follow. Your day to day is dictated by 'shoulds' and 'musts' with little to no autonomy or time for yourself. And you feel exhausted.

Perhaps you are exploring your gender identity and sexuality (maybe not for the first time) and struggling to find what these mean to you. On top of your own struggles you feel like you are constantly dealing with how people react to you, in their eyes, falling short of being gay/bi/trans/queer 'enough'. Or you feel unprepared and stressed about sex because no one took the time to talk about this with you.

Perhaps you feel disconnected from your body. You get surprised by sudden emotional breakdowns that seemingly come from nowhere. Or you feel numb and distant, unable to let the emotions out. You are stuck in the state of alertness, not knowing how to soothe your racing mind, overwhelmed emotions and overstimulated body.

At the core of it all you feel lost in all that the world expects of you, who you are, what is meaningful to you and what you need.

Find a Moment to Reflect

Counselling is like a lighthouse to a lost sailor. It can be a symbol of hope. A place that offers safety and security after a long journey. It can be a place to reflect and gain perspective to find new paths forward.

Counselling is a space where you can:

Reflect on your life and the choices you've made.

Redefine and renegotiate your role in relationships.

Create a new sense of agency in your day to day routines.

Learn to permit yourself to rest.

Find what your gender and sexuality mean to you.

Untangle the years of conditioning that said 'you are not enough'.

Redefine what 'sex' is and how to make it fulfilling for you.

Consider your options regarding gender affirming care.

Start paying attention to the sensations in your body.

Identify your triggers and emotional spirals.

Learn to look at your emotions with compassion.

Find ways to sooth your racing mind, overwhelming emotions and overstimulated body.

Reach Out Today

About Me

Hello, my name is Azbel (they/them). I am an integrative counsellor, registered with the BACP, offering open ended counselling in London.

After leaving home for the first time I felt lost too, I didn't know what my values were outside of my family unit, I was clinging to a label that no longer suited me and I found myself breaking down constantly, unable to sooth my own body.

Through my own therapy and self discovery over the years I learned:

To listen to my body with curiosity and react to its needs with compassion.
To let my gender and sexuality evolve and shift. Finding new ways to express and enjoy myself.
What my values are (some of which I kept from my family) and started living my life in alignment with these.

My Approach